Where has the time gone

This time 24 years ago I was a new mum, and my husband was, I am sure, in a state of shock, you get handed a writhing, crying bundle, that you look at and think how do I know what this thing is going to need 24 hours a day for the next however many years? All I can say is that it couldn’t have been that bad because we did venture to have more, and our daughter is a well balanced, caring individual, who we are proud of!


Training to Thrive

I have found out that I will be attending a Thrive course through my work, to say I am pleased is an understatement, it underpins all the work that I do with the little people I have daily contact with, Thrive is a programme designed by a group of educationalists and psychologists, that aims to replace the missing emotional markers from a childs development from the age of zero to eighteen, so that they are able to learn, love and play without all of the stress that they normally have, below I have copied some of the information from the web site so that you may get a clearer idea of what it involves.

The six building blocks or developmental strands

Thrive™ uses a developmental framework to clarify the connections between emotional and social development, behaviour and learning. Child development can be depicted as six building blocks of experience, each with accompanying tasks and opportunities. These translate into six fundamental aspects of learning for emotional and social development:

Learning to be

Learning to do

Learning to think

Learning to be powerful and to have an identity (Power and Identity)

Learning to be skilful and have structure (Skills and Structure)

Learning to be separate and secure in your sexual identity (Separation and Sexuality)

These can be thought of as six areas of competence. Each area of competence has related tasks and desirable experiences to make the most of learning. The diagram above makes ‘learning to be’ or ‘being’ the foundation on which other experiences are built; this is the model that is used throughout the programme.

Sequential emotional development
As the child grows the developmental strands come ‘on-line’ sequentially – however, once they are in place, they remain available and open to growth throughout life. This means that our developmental tasks can be addressed at any point in our lives; we are truly life-long learners when it comes to brain and emotional and social development.

Recycling the tasks of emotional learning
The Thrive approach talks of this as ‘recycling’; we recycle our developmental needs as they arise and until they are met. Our changing circumstances throughout our lives also present us both with challenges to be addressed and opportunities to learn or relearn from our experiences. Until we are supported to understand and act in ways that are different from our familiar, predictable responses, we are likely to keep meeting similar challenges with the behaviours we have used before – even if they were not successful last time.

Developmental strands and learning needs
Each building block is linked to three learning needs. You can recognise the most urgent learning need by observing the young person’s behaviour. Thrive™ then recommends specific one-to-one responses and various teaching strategies, and explores the implications for the school as a whole.

Real horse or Warhorse

Real horse or Warhorse

Looking through my photographs tonight, I came across this picture that reminded me of the horses from “Warhorse” the stage performance, this photo was taken whilst on holiday, at a small centre just outside of Simonstown, South Africa, amazing what can be made with scraps of metal.



Looking around my garden I suddenly noticed these growing in a shady corner, they are so tiny that I almost overlooked them, it shows how damp it is and has been in Devon recently, it’s raining again now and has been cold today, April 21st, yesterday it was beautiful sunshine, lovely and warm, what has happened to our seasons?

Milky way the puppet

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Some of you will have read previous posts about the work I do, for those who haven’t I will give you a quick tour, I work in a nurture unit within a key stage 1 school, repairing the damage done by lack of, or very little sensible parenting.

Well today was one of the days that I knew had to happen but I was dreading it, three of the boys I work with are year 2s and have to move to the junior site a short walk away, to prepare one of the boys for todays visit, I took him to a quiet area to explain to him what would be happening during the day, when all hell let loose, over went the chair, up went the pot of felt tips like a rainbow flying through the air, and out into the playground he ran, anything in his way went flying, benches turned over, sticks thrown, balls kicked, he even tried to lift one of the fixed planters so that he could throw it in his anger, he came and sat on a step near to me, what did I have that could calm him like no other thing could? A puppet of a cow, that he has become attached to named Milky way, all I did was hold it up to the window and in he came, immediately took the puppet from me started to cuddle it, and coo just like a baby, yes I had won him over, or more to the point the puppet had.

We did go to the junior site later, where I had to give him a piggy back to get there, so that he had close comfort when he was feeling worried and vulnerable, each time he came upon a new situation, he clambered into my arms seeking reassurance, I know that some were looking at him thinking surely that child should have grown out of that by now, but for him and me he is still a 3 year old boy in a seven year olds body, all because his mother was an alcoholic who ignored him when he cried and paid him no attention at all.

I have three children of my own, but I have many children that I have nurtured in my time who look upon me as their mum, the eldest being 35 and the youngest 4, I feel proud to be so privileged.